We receive many different questions at Astrology Answers. Astrologers, psychics, and practitioners who work with divination tools (tarot, runes, pendulums, etc.) can offer meaningful insight and guidance when life feels confusing or difficult. However, some questions can’t be answered usefully by a professional—not necessarily because the practitioner lacks skill, but because of how the question is framed and the expectations behind it. Phrasing matters. When you learn to ask the right questions, your astrologer can provide a birth chart interpretation or reading rich with practical wisdom and direction. Below are five types of questions you should avoid asking your astrologer, and what to ask instead.
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Questions That Start With “Will I” or “Am I”
Questions framed as “Will I…?” or “Am I…?” (and variations like “Will he?” or “Will she?”) are problematic because they invite definitive predictions about choices that aren’t predetermined. Astrology and psychic work describe influences, tendencies, and timing—they don’t remove free will. If you want something enough, you’ll prioritize it and act; if you don’t, it won’t happen. A responsible reader won’t pretend to control outcomes or hand you certainty where none exists.
What to Ask Instead
Try asking, “What are my chances of…?” or “Does this look like a good idea according to my chart?” That allows your astrologer to outline the strengths, risks, and timing related to the situation so you can decide whether it’s worth your time and energy.
“What Are the Lottery Numbers?”
Asking for the winning lottery numbers is a common but unrealistic request. No planetary alignment, tarot spread, or oracle reliably produces specific lottery combinations. If such a skill existed, it’s unlikely the person with it would be working a regular job.
What to Ask Instead
Ask about upcoming fortunate periods or whether your chart indicates potential for financial gain. Specific houses and transits—such as influences to the 5th house (luck) or the 2nd house (finances)—can point to better times for risk-taking or income increases. Your astrologer can help you identify when your luck may be higher or lower so you can plan accordingly, even if they can’t hand you exact numbers.
“When Will I Be Happy?”
Asking someone else when you will be happy hands your personal power to another person. Happiness depends largely on your choices and mindset. Astrology can highlight supportive or challenging periods and suggest ways to take advantage of positive energies, but it cannot create lasting happiness for you. How you respond to events and whom you surround yourself with make a significant difference.
What to Ask Instead
Ask if there are aspects or transits you can work with to invite more happiness into your life. Your astrologer can point to favorable times to initiate changes, the nature of supportive influences, and periods when challenges might prompt growth. Use that guidance to take practical steps—relationship changes, new routines, or mindset shifts—that help you cultivate lasting well-being.
“Can You Cast a Spell to Make My Ex Return?”
Astrologers typically do not cast spells to manipulate someone’s will. Astrology focuses on planetary patterns and chart interpretation, not coercive magic. Attempting to force someone to return raises ethical concerns and often creates more problems: the returned person may not stay willingly, you may feel guilty, or you could end up in an ongoing cycle of attempts to control outcomes.
What to Ask Instead
Instead of asking whether a lost partner can be forced back, ask what your chart indicates about future love prospects. That opens possibilities—reconciliation, new relationships, or opportunities for personal growth—without resorting to manipulative measures. An astrologer can advise on timing and personal development so you can prepare for healthy, mutually willing relationships.
“Tell Me Something I Don’t Already Know About Myself”
Appointments aren’t a game of “test the psychic.” An astrologer’s role isn’t to surprise you with trivial facts you already know. Their value lies in interpreting planetary influences and life themes to help you understand patterns, heal from the past, and plan for the future. Telling you something obvious doesn’t provide meaningful guidance.
What to Ask Instead
Ask your reader to help you make sense of past events so you can release their hold on you and move forward. Request insights into recurring patterns, strengths you can develop, or blind spots that may be affecting your relationships and goals. A chart can illuminate why certain situations repeat and suggest constructive steps for growth and closure.
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Conclusion
Astrologers and psychic counselors can offer powerful guidance, but they aren’t miracle workers. For readings to be useful, you must remain proactive and take responsibility for applying the advice you receive. Keep free will in mind: use your chart’s insights to plan, prepare, and act. Avoid the five question types above and focus on clear, actionable questions that invite useful interpretation. A good reader will support you without judgment and help you get the most from your session, guiding you toward practical, empowering choices.