With many planets currently transiting the fixed water sign Scorpio, relationships are under a powerful, probing spotlight. Venus has just arrived, and the Sun remains in Scorpio for a while longer. Jupiter is also in this intense sign, bringing a fortunate influence that will continue through the fall of 2018.
In early December, Mars moves into Scorpio and stays there into the new year. Scorpio’s energy is intense and transformative—useful for deepening relationships, but it also highlights a common obstacle: the emotional wall. Scorpio builds walls well, and it also has the ability to tear them down.
If you want to succeed in love and relationships, you’ll likely need to dismantle some of those barriers. Below we explore why walls form, how they keep others out, and practical ways to open your heart without sacrificing self-protection.
Walls Keep People Out
We build emotional walls primarily to protect our hearts from pain. People who have experienced less hurt tend to be more open and often enjoy freer, happier relationships, but they are a minority. Most of us carry wounds and create defenses—some subtle, some high and thick.
When someone approaches a guarded person, they encounter those defenses. Some pursuers will make the effort to move past the gate; others will turn away. That natural sorting process is part of how we protect ourselves, but it can also limit opportunities for meaningful connection.
Many people say, “I won’t open up unless someone else tears down my wall.” That mindset is self-limiting. Expecting another person to dismantle your defenses for you sets you up to miss relationships that require your own willingness to change. Tearing down walls is ultimately your responsibility.
Self-preservation is sensible—no one should let just anyone in. Scorpio’s cautious, investigative nature exemplifies this: research, testing, and careful observation are part of how it evaluates potential partners. When something consistently fails Scorpio’s criteria, the instinct may be to cut it away entirely and start fresh.
That decisive energy can be empowering; it can also lead to isolation if you swing too far toward shutting people out. The healthiest middle ground is openness: maintaining discernment while allowing emotional access that fosters honest, fulfilling relationships.
How to Be Open in Relationships
Being open in relationships is not the same as having an open relationship. Openness here means cultivating an open heart—communicating honestly, allowing vulnerability, and speaking your needs clearly. It means engaging in the give-and-take of relating.
Expressing what you want and need can feel risky because we fear rejection. Many avoid the discomfort, convinced that revealing needs will drive their partner away. The counterintuitive truth is that honest communication is the foundation of deeper intimacy. Without it, resentment, misunderstanding, and distance grow.
Loving someone always involves the possibility of loss—whether through a breakup or death. Acknowledging that reality can be freeing rather than paralyzing. We accept temporary attachments in many areas of life despite potential pain because the rewards matter. The same principle applies to intimate relationships: knowing loss is possible doesn’t mean you should avoid love.
Choose to allow yourself to care fully, knowing the risks. Practice small acts of vulnerability, share preferences and boundaries, and invite reciprocal openness. Over time, consistent honesty builds trust and reduces the need for defensive walls.
Being Open and the Law of Attraction
The law of attraction suggests that what you focus on tends to expand in your life. If your attention centers on fortifying a protective wall, you’ll reinforce patterns of isolation and repel those seeking genuine connection. Conversely, choosing openness will draw more of the kind of people and experiences that match that intention.
If you’re single, a genuine openness attracts people who are ready and willing to meet you. If you’re partnered, choosing vulnerability and clear communication elevates the relationship and invites deeper intimacy. Secrets and hidden resentments corrode connection more quickly than honest conversations ever do.
The choice is yours: strengthen the wall and preserve safety at the cost of closeness, or lower the gate and allow the possibility of richer, more authentic relationships. With Scorpio’s powerful energy present, now is a good time to decide whether you’ll hold fast to protection or open up to real emotional growth.